Enneagram Personality Types - aka "how to depress Becky" XD
Wednesday, September 18, 2002 @ 1:22 am
"You desire love, for everyone to care for you. Impetus - deficit and/or excess of genuine care in your life experience. Problem - it is impossible to get everyone to care about you no matter what you do."
This is so me that it IS funny. In an ironic, it's-making-me-cry-right-now kind of funny way. XD I mean, this is the very reason that I do so many things in my life... I just want to be liked, cared for. It all seems so twisted.
more... (I only left in the stuff that I think applies to me)
The Helper (the Two)
Helpers are warm, concerned, nurturing, and sensitive to other people's needs.
How to Get Along with Me
Tell me that you appreciate me. Be specific.
Share fun times with me.
Take an interest in my problems, though I will probably try to focus on yours. [*sweatdrops* i hate to talk about myself. despise it, even.]
Let me know that I am important and special to you.
Be gentle if you decide to criticize me. [please, please be gentle...]
Intimate Relationships
Reassure me that I am intersting to you.
Reassure me often that you love me.
Tell me I'm attractive and that you're glad to be seen with me.
What I Like About Being a Two
being able to relate easily to people and to make friends
knowing what people need and being able to make their lives better
being generous, caring, and warm
being sensitive to and perceptive about others' feelings
being enthusiastic and fun-loving, and having a good sense of humor
What's Hard About Being a Two
not being able to say no
having low self-esteem
feeling drained from overdoing for others
not doing things I really like to do for myself for fear of being selfish [i can and do indulge myself, but only after i've thoroughly justified it]
criticizing myself for not feeling as loving as I think I should ["should" is my theme word. yep. i constantly criticize myself for every little thing, and especially this one]
being upset that others don't tune in to me as much as I tume in to them [i used to be that way a lot, but now i've come to realize that i'm a hell of a lot more sensitive than most other people, so of course they can't tune in to me like i can tune in to them!]
working so hard to be tactful and considerate that I suppress my real feelings [no comment.. ugh.]
Twos as Children Often
are very sensitive to disapproval and criticism [oh yes, oh yes indeed]
try hard to please their parents by being helpful and understanding
are outwardly compliant [i am such a little rule-follower]
act coy, precocious, or dramatic in order to get attention [i did this to my dad a lot; the poor man... O.o;;]
are clowns and jokers (the more extroverted Twos), or quiet and shy (the more introverted Twos) [i'm actually both of these, depending on my mood]
Twos as Parents
wonder: "Am I doing it right?" "Am I giving enough?" "Have I caused irreparable damage?" [i worry about this with how i interact with other people in general, especially friends]
can become fiercely protective [i'm this way right now, with the people i care the most about]
okay, so i'm not quite so sad anymore, but.... i still wish angelo would come online. =( and i wish i wasn't such an idiot and that i would actually rely on my friends more, cause i know they want me to. well, i know deidre wants me to, and i know autsy doesn't mind it when i tell her about my problems; at least, i don't think she does... *worries about it* UGH! XD i don't know how angelo can stand the way i am (and i hope he doesn't read this, otherwise he would "yell" at me for saying that!). i'm lucky to know him and to have him... he somehow knows how to treat me, and he takes care of me very well; i always feel loved when i'm near him (well, unless we're having a fight, but then we both get over it and life is good again). somehow he knows all the right things to do..... it's so comforting. he does all of the things that make me feel loved and cared for and needed and appreciated and all that other stuff listed up there. *points*
(my apologies for not using the shift key.... i get that way when i'm tired or sad or both.) oh, and the quoted stuff above comes from http://www.9types.com.
*becky goes thud as her head hits the keyboard* owwiieee...
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